True growth is not greedy, it is mature enough to realize that it is not self sufficient, it is mature to know that it happens with other people’s push. People who understand and value the relationship of others in their growth process, grow limitlessly.
Let’s take this story:
A young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview, the director conducted the last interview, to make the last decision. The director discovered from the CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent all the way, from Secondary School until Postgraduate research, Never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarships in school?” The youth answered “none”.
“Was it your father who paid for your school fees?” The youth answered, “My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees”.
“Where did your mother work?” The youth answered, “My mother worked as clothes cleaner.” The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
“Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?” The youth answered, “Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me”.
The director said, “I have a request. When you go home today, go and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning”.
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he got home, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid. The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay his school fee. The bruises in his mother’s hands were the price that she had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future. After finishing to clean his mother’s hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother and son talked for a very long time. Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes and asked: “Can you tell me what you’ve done and learned yesterday in your house?” The youth answered, “I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes”.
The Director asked, “please tell me your feelings”. The youth said, “First, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not be the successful me today. Secondly, By working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Finally, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship”.
The director said, “This is what I am looking for in a person to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired”.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently as a team. The company’s performance improved tremendously. (Story extracted from moralstories.org)
If one doesn’t understand and experience the difficulty it takes to earn the comfort provided by their loved ones, then they will never value it. The most important thing is to experience the difficulty and learn to value hard work behind all the given comfort.
As you grow, it is important to recognize the sacrifices of those who push you up and appreciate them. Sometimes the same measure of love and passion you give to your growth process should be what you give to those who push your growth. Because, your growth and relevance is attached to people around you.
– End of Series 5.
About The Author:
Godswill Okwori is a devoted Christian, an enterprising believer who never ceases to promote the kingdom business wherever he goes. He is a social worker that initiates and involves in making a positive difference in the lives of people who are socially marginalized, disadvantaged and excluded through helping to meet their basic human needs, promoting the realization of their potential as well as helping them recognize and exercise their rights.
His vision for social change is to become a social leader who breeds and raise societal change makers through inculcating mental hygiene, and building a sustainable mind-set that nurtures a space for positive growth.
He is the founder of Talks of Realities, an initiative focused at bringing individuals together to discuss and solve issues bothering them.
Godswill is an indigene of Benue State, Nigeria.
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