Growth comes when you recognize what activates your passion and what triggers your love. To be able to identify that, you must be self-aware. So the big question is: are you self-aware?
Only those who are self-aware can lead their growth; you must have a full understanding of yourself (your emotions, your likes and dislikes, your good times and odd times).
Self-awareness is the ability to monitor our inner and external world. Our thoughts and feelings arise as signals. Developing self-awareness allows us to be no longer swept away by those signals, but instead to objectively and thoughtfully respond to them. Self-aware people understand their internal experience and their impact on the external experience of others; nothing measures growth more than this.
Self-awareness is really just about being aware and confident of who you are. It can relate to knowing your own values, beliefs, personal preferences and tendencies.
You know how famous people always say, ‘Stay true to yourself’? This is really important advice, but it’s not easy to stay true to yourself if you don’t know who you are. By becoming self-aware and understanding your strengths and limitations, you open up opportunities that just aren’t available otherwise. You’re also able to have more honest and genuine relationships because the people that you’re attracted to will be attracted to you for who you actually are.
How do you become self-aware?
Asking a friend to clarify your strengths and weaknesses can be a significant pathway to self-awareness. While many people believe they are self-aware, having an outside perspective is helpful in a clearer understanding of external self-awareness.
Starting a mindfulness practice is another way to increase self-awareness. There are a variety of activities to include in mindfulness practice. Find a few ideas to inspire you to incorporate meditation or some other variations to improve your presence. When mindfulness is practiced, behavior becomes more intentional, and increased self-awareness develops. One big step into self-awareness is to listen to yourself. What’s going on in your mind? Is it a series of negative thoughts that make you feel pretty crappy? Or are you always looking on the bright side?
In practice: Take a couple of minutes each day to sit in silence and listen to the tone of your inner voice. One way of getting your inner voice going is to stand in front of a mirror and hear what you’re saying to yourself about how you look. It might even help to write down your thoughts so that you can get a better idea of how positive or negative they are. This helps to bring your body, heart and mind into one being; it fosters growth a lot.
Finally, your senses (sight and sound, in particular) can provide you with huge insights into your own and other people’s feelings, and situations in general. But these senses are often viewed through the filter of our self-talk. For example, a frown doesn’t always mean that someone’s angry, and a groan doesn’t necessarily mean that the person you’re talking with is bored, despite what your inner voice might be saying.
In practice: The next time you feel that someone is judging you, or has made you feel bad about yourself, take a step back and write down why you think this. Ask yourself, ‘Could I have interpreted what was said/done differently?’ You might find that your interpretation was clouded by your own negative thoughts.
Love, Passion and Growth comes with a total discovery of yourself, if you are not aware of who you are, you tend to become a wanderer in life, but when you gain a full knowledge of yourself, you aim and trade in the right path and with that, growth becomes a norm.
About The Author:
Godswill Okwori is a devoted Christian, an enterprising believer who never ceases to promote the kingdom business wherever he goes. He is a social worker that initiates and involves in making a positive difference in the lives of people who are socially marginalized, disadvantaged and excluded through helping to meet their basic human needs, promoting the realization of their potential as well as helping them recognize and exercise their rights.
His vision for social change is to become a social leader who breeds and raise societal change makers through inculcating mental hygiene, and building a sustainable mind-set that nurtures a space for positive growth.
He is the founder of Talks of Realities, an initiative focused at bringing individuals together to discuss and solve issues bothering them.
Godswill is an indigene of Benue State, Nigeria.
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